I felt compelled to write about the word "NEED" when used by healers or even at your local spiritual shop. I get frustrated by this word being projected onto people and here is my reason why.
Do I know what YOU need? no I don't... I can advise, I can guide, I can educate and I can show but I cannot tell you what you need. Only YOU know what you need. When you become aware of your energy, of your soul and spirit you instinctively will be able to determine what you are needing in regards to healing (or whatever the situation), to picking crystals and so on. Since I do not live in your body I cannot tell you want you need, yes as a healer we feel energy and can suggest things based on that, but someone telling you that you NEED rose quartz to help your heart chakra is only basing this on the fact the we presume rose quartz is for the heart chakra. I disagree with this as someone who does energy scanning with a biofeed back machine, I see crystals do all sorts of things and each one is based solely on the individuals energy... not my own. When someone comes in to see us at the store because someone told them they NEEDED to do this, or do that, I feel empathy for that person because they don't know why they are doing these things as they are only following what they were told. Shouldn't the job of energy workers be to enlighten, to education, to empower someone for their own healing? If all they are told is what they need, how is anyone supposed to move past their blockages when they are only following instructions.
So I call out to the healers and ask that we stop using the word need and replace it with "suggest" or "recommend" and explain to someone HOW to pick a crystal instead of googling "heart chakra stones", teach people how to pick their crystal (or tools) with their energy and the intention. Since energy is vibration, and we can change our vibration by thought wouldn't it make sense to think of the blockage you are wanting to move through, envision it in detail, then pick the crystal to match that vibration? This is what I teach people, I empower them to take the overthinking of crystals and the stigma that only a rose quartz is for your heart. This also applies to those saying "you need to do this ritual", this scares me... because those people are truly looking to us for experience and knowledge, and if they are told that a ritual is their way out... that isn't very fair because its not true. Yes I understand for some, that performing a ritual with candles and the whole lot of tools is powerful BUT for those that are new, that are seeking guidance again are doing something they really are not aware of or possess the knowledge to work with the energy and understand it.
I very much disagree with instructing people on rituals, if they wish to learn on their own then all the power to them, at least they will do some research, but I will never guide someone on a ritual. The other side of this, is we do not need rituals to tap into energy, we have the power in our minds, and in our sprits to do this without any candles, or herbs. The human mind is powerful, the human spirit has the ability to do all the things we are looking for, we just have to listen and tap into that part and stop letting others tell us what we NEED.